Abby Ongyanco-Lim

Lately, I’m having dreams about my first boyfriend. I don’t know why he kept on appearing on my dreams. It’s like all memories are coming back to me. I am happily married now. But, I am now wondering what my dreams meant.

It’s like a tour from my memory lane. The dream even includes a tour of our old house at Ortega Street in San Juan. I think our old house appears in my dream since it’s where I and my ex spent most of our time. I dream about the time when we become group mates in some IT projects in our freshmen and spent numerous nights in study room. After several weeks of working late, we suddenly find ourselves liking each other. I dream about joyous moments in different parts of that old house, the swimming pool where we spent most of our Saturday afternoons. I dream about the kitchen where I cooked food for him. I dream about the music room where I played the piano for him. I dream about our video room where we did spent a lot time watching movies.

Our relationship lasted for about a year. But it ended up in a bad way. I dream about him telling me after an All Saints Day vacation that he no longer interested in me. Just like that, I dream about those hurting words he hurled at me. The reason why he wants to break up was too much to take. I ended up being obsess. I dream about the outrageous things that I did to him to get even.

I don’t know why I’m dreaming about this stuff but I’m curious to find out why. So, I did a quick search on Google. And, amazingly here’s what I gathered.

1. from Dreamdoctor.com - (http://www.dreamdoctor.com/dictionary/exlover.shtml)

Ex-lovers often appear if a relationship ended abruptly, without emotional closure. Do you still wonder if it could have worked out differently? Do you miss qualities that your ex-lover possessed?

2. from thecuriousdreamer.com - (http://www.thecuriousdreamer.com/symbols/308/)

You have unfinished business with this person

3. from dreamloverinc.com - (http://www.dreamloverinc.com/e.htm#Ex-boy/girlfriend)

You will continue to dream about your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend until you “let go” of them on a very important level, or until you learned your lessons from that relationship. Either way, dreaming about your ex-romance does not predict future involvement. It may be wish-fulfillment, reliving memories, or working out old issues.

Well, I guess my dreams are telling me about my need for a closure. True enough, I can feel the meaning of my dream. I hope that someday I and my ex can have a closure and go on with our lives. Wherever you are, I just like to say Happy New Year 2008!

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When talking about internet censorship, the first thing that comes to my mind is China. Seven years ago when I visited Guangzhou in China to attend Canton fair, I had a hard time accessing some websites in one of the Internet Workstation. That was when I heard about the government move in filtering information.

I think China can do that successfully even there’s a lot of criticisms because of their kind of government whereas other countries will have a hard time implementing such measures.

Though, I am still for internet censorship. There’s a need to filter out information for kids especially in their critical development stage. But this can be done, by manually installing a program to help filter out information. And, this can be achieved down to household level. At this point, implementing a censorship body for the whole internet is unachievable. As every second there’s new website and information spurting out. It’s a gigantic task to do, a mission impossible thing. Imagine an internet body will try to unplug thousands or more website because of internet censorship. It will surely raise a lot of criticisms, like freedom of speech. More, this will greatly affect a lot of business too – internet service providers.

Going back to taking the responsibility down to household level, a parent can download an internet filter program. One program that I know of is Cybersitter, this program helps filter out objectionable internet content.

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